I have been struggling to get back into blogging because I feel like I built myself into this little box of strictly “fashion” posts and that you guys, the people who take time to read my blog, came here for those posts and nothing more. I’ve been wanting to write about so much more though. So… I hope that’s okay. If it’s not, I will still have fashion posts here and there so feel free to stick around.
This post is going to be about moving out…all on your own.
I know most of you are probably thinking: been there, done that.
But for me, this is a totally new experience.
I stayed in my hometown for college and lived at home to save money so this is the first time I have ever lived away from my parents AND the first time I have ever lived completely on my own–no roommates.
I must say, it has been quite the learning experience and has changed me in more ways than I think I am even aware of.
Let’s start with the pros:
1. I am in a brand new city.
This is a pro for me for a few reasons. I am in a new place that I get to explore and learn about every single day but I am also in a place where I can essentially start over. No one knows me and I know no one; it’s a blank slate. This might be my favorite part about moving out. I am so happy that I get to shape a new life for myself in a new place.
2. I get to decorate a whole apartment exactly how I want.
This has been SO. MUCH. FUN. My bank account might not be over the moon about it but I sure am. I love getting to express myself through the decorations in my home, it’s the best feeling. If you would be interested in seeing a little apartment tour, let me know! I’d love to show you all what I’ve done with the place.
3. I don’t have to worry about anyone else’s schedule.
I can shower when I want to, play music when I want to, and walk around in my underwear when I want to. What more could I ask for? T-Swift dance parties in my underwear on Saturday mornings have become a tradition and I love it.
4. I am learning to be even more independent.
Anyone who knew me before I moved out was aware that I have always been a very independent person but this trait of mine has multiplied tenfold. It still surprises me sometimes, if we are being honest. Paying bills, grocery shopping, fixing things, installing technology, etc. I’m forced to do it all on my own and while sometimes it is a bit intimidating (ex. taking an uber to the E.R. because I couldn’t drive myself and didn’t have anyone else to drive me), it has made me realize that I am perfectly capable on my own and that I don’t have to rely on anyone for anything: I got this.
5. My mental health is thriving.
Not to drag Bakersfield too hard but it is a black hole. Too harsh? My bad. #SorryNotSorry. While there, I struggled to feel motivated to accomplish dreams of mine and progress in life. Getting out has been one of the best things to happen to my mental health and I honestly can’t stress that enough. Sometimes a break from what you’re used to day-in and day-out is exactly what you need to get better; give it a shot sometime.
1. It is really hard being away from family and friends.
I am fortunate to have such a great relationship with my mom but it makes being far away VERY difficult. She is my best friend so not being able to sit on the couch and watch the Bachelor with her is tough but thank goodness for modern technology that allows us to text and call each other. Most of my friends left Bakersfield right after college so I got used to missing them fairly quickly but I made some great friends at my last job before leaving that I miss a ton. I didn’t expect to make friends so quickly and hoped I’d be able to leave Bakersfield without many strings attached but that didn’t work out. It sucks at times but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
2. Life can get lonely sometimes.
I am typically someone who thoroughly enjoys being alone. I like to spend about 90% of my life entirely solo but that last 10%, I really wish I had someone to talk to. The girl who does my lash extensions and my personal trainer get their ears talked off because in those moments, I finally have someone to talk to who kinda has to listen! Haha. I appreciate them a lot because I’m sure my rambling can be a bit much. If you are someone who needs to be around people a lot to be happy, definitely consider a roommate. I have seen plenty of people let their mental health suffer because they are too isolated. Don’t do that to yourself.
3. It ain’t cheap.
Living on your own is not cheap. At all. I have never been great at saving/conserving money (sorry, Mom) but this is something I had to learn rather quickly when I moved out. Once the bills start rolling in and you realize it’s all on you, your brain shuts off the desire to shop pretty quick and you go into survival mode. I’m a penny-pincher now! Haha.
If you have any questions about my experience, definitely reach out. I love getting to share with other people and answer questions. It can definitely be a daunting experience so I’m more than happy provide some insight!
Moving out has helped me grow so much and I am so glad that I can look back at who I was a year ago and not even recognize her. I am becoming more and more like the woman I aspire to be and I am super proud of myself. Heck yes I am going to toot my own horn about this: I am thriving!
Thanks for stopping by and reading this week’s post!
Talk to you all soon. ❤